Before I started my Internet research about Valentine’s
Day, I never thought that people had so many controversial opinions about the
day. St.Valentines’s Day has recently come into our life
due to globalization. Being historically a traditional English holiday, at
present it is celebrated in almost all the countries of the world – Thailand and China,
Ghana and Ukraine, United Arab Emirates and many
others. When I was a school student we could hardly think of giving valentines
to our classmates. But now ready-made Valentine cards are sold, tips how to celebrate
Valentine’s Day are given on TV, Valentine parties are thrown in most night
clubs, special discounts are offered in gift shops. Personally, I have always had some mixed feelings
about St.Valentine’s Day. No doubt, it is a wonderful day with a good chance to
open your heart (may be secretly!) to a person or people you love. But
aggressive ads and commercial aspect of the holiday take away a great part of
romance from it and make it more formal. Moreover, it’s tough for me to accept
the fact that we celebrate foreign holiday (needless to say about my great
respect to all traditions and cultures and nobody can accuse me of having
nationalist views – perhaps, I just
can’t accept such fast mixing of cultures). I felt a bit ashamed of all those
ideas that is why I tried to make a little research about what can be "wrong” with
the holiday and about other than positive attitudes to the holiday. In Ghana people say the
youth changed the meaning of St Valentine Day, which is supposed to be a period
to exchange gifts, to engage in promiscuity. Unexpectedly, St.Valentine’s Day not only gives birth
to new couples but also breaks relationships.
Psychologists have found out that a huge number of couples break up
before or on Valentine’s Day because they are afraid of saying the words "I
love you” for some reasons – they are not confident in their love, they are not
ready, they have a commitment phobia. All expectances connected with the day
screw up partners and force them think over the reasons not to keep relationships.
And what about annoyance the holiday brings to singles on the day when
everything revolves around love? I really feel sorry for them. Unfortunately, nature suffers from people’s wish to
buy a bunch of red roses for their sweethearts on Valentine’s Day. The greater part
of red roses sold on Valentine’s Day is grown in Kenya in the time when growing
requires much water from one of the lakes. In a couple of years the lake can
easily run dry if farmers don’t stop using its waters thoughtlessly. In spite of romantic and
good-natured character of the holiday People in many countries protest and
fight against celebrating St.Valentines Day in different ways (quite radical,
I’d say): In Poland
nationalists oppose St. Valentine’s Day with the posters with the requirement
to abandon the
foreign tradition of celebrating Saint Valentine’s Day and go back to their
roots, i.e. pagan rites. Official festivities for St.
Valentine's Day were banned in the Belgorod region by the local governor, who
reportedly said the holiday goes against Russian cultural traditions.
Religious police in Saudi Arabia
bans St.Valentine’s Day because of its Christian origin. No items of red color
or of a heart shape or reminding of this day can be displayed in shop windows
and counters. Even red salesman uniform, candles and music are forbidden in shops,
cafes and restaurants. Besides, other Islamic countries criticize the
celebration of Valentine’s Day as well. Valentine’s Day news blocks are filled not only with romantic
and exciting headlines about but also weird
and bizarre ones. By and large,
there is nothing wrong in the idea of the holiday devoted to the highest
feeling in the world. It is the lack of love and warm relationships that get
people stressed and exhausted nowadays. If this day makes them happier and make
the life more colorful and meaningful – what can be better? Still, true and
sincere love doesn’t depend on holidays, decorations, gifts and seasons. Sincere
love, care and warmth of your heart can be the best everyday gift for the
people you love – sometimes much better than thorny roses.
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